Twice!!!!!

So I had one more date with the shy guy. We went to my work party... He was super shy and didn't talk to anyone ( I understand he didn't know anyone, but he didn't even speak to me). Afterwards we talked about Christmas and I shared some personal moments with him, I thought all was good. But then I didn't hear from him AT ALL! Almost a month went by when he called to ask about my recent test scores and made the statement "wow, who would have guessed My Girlfriend was so smart." --- I am still not sure why he was surprised but more importantly why he thought we were dating?! I shared my confusion with him and he seemed to be upset that I thought so little of our relationship. He asked me to list why I thought we shouldn't date. I quickly replied that it wasn't hat I didn't want to date I just didn't qualify talking to someone once every other week ( if I called), seeing them once a month, and never kissing or holding their hand as my boyfriend (if I did I would have been in a relationship with all my stories....wow he's got something there...maybe I should change my definition..humm). He came back with " wait we haven't kissed?"
Now I'm not an amazing kisser but I'm sure the kid would remember if we kissed, don't you? And no we never did. We got into a bit of a fight and said, " I guess we should breakup." to which I asked " how do you breakup when you're not dating?" needless to say we " broke up"

A week later he called and asked me out as if we had just met. " I don't know if you remember me but we went out back in October and I thought you were cute, I should have called sooner but I am a dork. Would you be willing to give me another shot on Friday night." I called him back and said " I happen to be working Friday" he replied with a Saturday request and I agreed.
He called Thursday and we talked for awhile before he said, " I think your great but I just don't know where this is going...I live up here and you live so far away. I want to get to know you but its too difficult to drive down to see you..." he went on to basically tell me if I lived closer we would date. Humm so in a nut shell the drive isn't worth it, and me. I quickly pick my jaw off the ground because here I was getting broken up with again, and said "okay but can this be the final time you call to breakup with me? "

Life is Funny

I got my Sleepless in Seattle moment and I flew to met my Tom Hanks. He was wonderful and everything I thought but nothing was felt between us. We both are in different places and maybe over time our friendship will grow but as for now that is all we have, friendship.

Surprisingly the shy sweetheart has been coming around. At first I only heard from him if I called him and he seemed to not be interested when I had surgery. However, this last week has changed (I think). We went out and he bought my mother flowers for her birthday and was so cute all night. Who knows...I think I should not think and just see where things take us.

You've got mail

YEP, my life gets more like the movies everyday! However, I unlike Meg Ryan do know the person on the other end side of that email...sort of. Lined up again but this time with my email. I didn't know how fun getting an email could be until now. We have talked, well written back and forth and it it really nice to hear from him. I have talked to him on the phone and I have told him things that I normally don't tell guys. Its really good!

Slow and steady

A long time ago someone wanted to set me up with a certain gentleman but they never gave either of us the others phone number just hoped that someday we would meet and all the choirs would sing. Well that never happened so I finally just asked for this fellow's number...and I called him. We enjoyed conversation after conversation however all the dates we would set up fell through. I had to work, he got sick, we live a far distance from one another and so that doesn't help either. Finally we met!! I had tickets to see a show that was half way for both of us. The show was great and the date went well (he's shy but oh so sweet). I left the date wanting to give it another chance. Which I did! Yep I asked him out to a sporting event this time. He got more talkative this time and it went well I thought; even though my family was ALL there...got to love them. I have to admit that this guy is kind of awkwardly shy...as in I don't really get him he talks and seems interested one minute and completely uncomfortable a minute later. No worries though I'm up for another meeting.

He did ask me out this time and it was a blast. He thought he would get me in a haunted house FOILED!!! There was no way I was going in there, but it was cute that he tried. However, he didn't try to hold my hand...there it was dangling and he kept awkwardly bumping it. I guess he is just taking his time which is fine, I am okay with that; but you have to remember that I'm still a girl and will over analyze the crap out of this and I have but I have to stop myself and breath (things will happen how they need to "have some faith" RIGHT?!). Hahaha but I have never got the patience thing down so I asked him out again for dinner at my place. He agreed and came! He still was super shy around everyone there and I am sure he said a total of 15 words the whole night to anyone besides me (to me he spoke the equivalent of a two page paper). The real treat of the night was the awkward couch moment.

There we were on the couch side by side; I not wanting to push him or make him move faster than he wanted sat in a position as to not discourage conversation but comfortable/content with just watching the movie. Half way through the movie I can feel the mood change and the wheels in his head going ninety miles per hour. Then came the quick arm around me (I could almost hear/see the sigh of relief from his mouth and a smile of victory). I fought back laughter as I felt his whole body getting nervous, heart racing, palms sweating, deep breathing. Poor kid it's just me I hope you make it to the end of the movie alive. You'll be glad to know he did and I walked him to his car and saw him off. It went well I think...but I think I should back off a bit and let it simmer, maybe let him plan something for us. Yep I think that's the plan.

Riddle Me This..

How come I can't seem to form words to speak to the guy I like but I can talk with guys I don't care to ever date? Also why do I always get stuck in the FRIEND ZONE? I am messed up...So I'm going to take matters into my own hands. I am looking for a teacher who can help me get past a second and third date; able to teach flirting to someone who just doesn't get it and has had success in the love department. If you have those qualifications and are up for a challenge please leave me a post. If not just wish me luck and give me some sound advice on how I may improve.

This is what comes from telling the truth

I went with option number one and just told him that I don't see it going anywhere. I know you're all thinking that maybe I'm picky and mean. You know I would say the same thing except for the fact that I just don't like him like that (friend zone all the way)and doesn't he deserve someone who is excited to see him? Anyways I told him...tears were present and I honestly felt bad. However, days later he had come back as if nothing happened. Calling, texting, visiting and floral arrangments (which he delivered to my bedroom door while I was sleeping; how did he get in you may ask...good question)! Not bad if there was anything there, which there's not. I finally thought I would just not talk to him...he wasn't getting the idea, so I made it a point to talk with him once more. I asked what he was doing and he informed me that I have been through a lot this year and I really need a man in my life :) and he knows that he is the man for me. Yad yad yad...He said that I am in love with him and I just don't know it; he'll wait until I realize it.

First off I honored that a great guy like him wants me, however I do not want him. I wish he would stop trying and this one guy would get off the bench and join the game. I guess love is like the Adam Sandler song "He loves her, but she loves this guy, and he loves some other girl...and it goes round and round."

Suckered

Once there was a girl, who had some weird dates. So she hoped and she prayed for a man who was normal and the perfect mate. Then appeared three suitors that all seemed to be great. Tonight I shall only tell you of one of them that happened as of late.

So when I was looking for a date for the last post I called the following gentleman and weeks later he returned the favor by taking me out. We had a good time. And he asked me out again (not bad). The second date was as good as the first and I began to think he was kind of cute. At the end of our date though he hugged me and SNIFFED me...followed by the sign of satisfaction. Unsure how to react to that expression I pulled back and he came pushing forward to my face. He came 70 and paused then shifted to the left and kissed me on the cheek.

The next day there was a few texts and a call. We interacted a bit and he came over to my house and awkwardly walked out to our garage. I follow him out and tried to follow his reasoning for going out there. After a while I walked back inside with him a step behind. I turned around to turned the light out and he full on suckered kissed me (yes his mouth completely engulfted mine, with slight suction). After pulling away I was unsure what to do I walked into the kitchen. Puzzled he walked in and asked what I was looking for, turning around he sucker kissed me again. And then again five minutes later. I was so blown away but not in a good way...there was nothing for me. It was just akward and honestly I was waiting for it to end. I feel bad but really that is the first time I've not felt lost in the moment. So do I tell him or let it slowly fade? THAT IS THE QUESTION!